Also, being horny is a very stupid reason to marry someone.I don’t know how much you know about Pakistani religious culture, but I need your advice.Should I stick it out, ignore my body’s desires, and refrain from sexual activity until I’m married?
Here’s my problem: I really, really want to have sex now. And I’m not a virgin because of moral or ethical reasons, or that I’m ashamed of my body; it’s simply because I’m afraid I’ll end up marrying an old-fashioned guy who, upon discovering I am not a virgin, will not be interested in me anymore.
My fears stem from what I was told about an aunt who was not a virgin when she got married; when her husband discovered that she did not bleed, he kicked her out onto the street, on their wedding night!
I know that it’s most likely not this severe anymore; that incident was many years ago.
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(I’m comparable to Christians who only go to church on Easter and Christmas.) My immediate family is very much like me, but the rest of our family, who we are very close with, take religion quite seriously.
I’m certain I could find a Muslim man who wouldn’t really care whether or not I was sexually active before I’d met him. ” or, “Hey, hypothetically speaking, if I’ve been sexually active, you’d be cool with it, right?
But in the back of my mind, there will always be that “What If? ” He might tell his family that I’m not a virgin, and they could easily spread this information to other families, and, consequently, any marriage prospects I might have.
(Our religious community is very small, and we’re a minority within Islam itself; it will be difficult as it is to find a husband with so few of us.
I’ve never run into another Muslim of our specific sect in the street, for example, which is how I get away with never wearing a headscarf.) I almost think that getting married right now would solve my problem; I could have all the sex I want without any social repercussions, but life just doesn’t work that way; I don’t know any single Muslim men (or single men in general) who are near my age and ready to get married.